The Perfect Date

Every wedding has a perfect date, right? The calendar around our house includes a big red heart over January 2, 2016.

My first reaction to this date was: what? Won’t it interfere with all the hoopla surrounding New Year’s Day? After all, the day before the wedding is usually the rehearsal. The day before that is often reserved for Bachelor/Bachelorette parties.

How will all this mesh amongst the regular holiday fervor?

Somehow, it will.

Reasons why a Winter Wedding needed to be close to Christmas

My future daughter has a lovely party of four young ladies. Three of them are still in college. Two of them attend college out of state. One of them works for the school.

Reason number one: This is a convenient time for her special girls.

Snowflakes are central to her decoration motif. So, having something closer to Christmas – before December 25 – would probably tend to include red, green, poinsettias and Christmas Trees. Not the look she’s going for.

Reason number two: She doesn’t want her wedding to compete with Christmas.

Did you dream about your wedding? Did you imagine certain colors and people? Maybe you wanted a summer wedding because that is so traditional. Good luck booking a popular location if you choose to “follow the crowd.”

Reason number three: Who wants to be like everyone else?

The colors she loves – turquoise, lavender and silver – scream a season, don’t they? You can picture the chill of ice in that pale blue. A winter sunrise tints the horizon lavender. And who doesn’t love the silvery sheen of icicles and snowflakes?

Reason number four: Her colors meshed perfectly with a winter wonderland.

How we plan to Cope

People are creatures of habit, sure. They have their set gatherings for December 31st. How will possible wedding-related activities fit into this hectic schedule?

  • The people who care about this wedding will happily adjust their schedules.
  • What’s wrong with a rehearsal dinner in place of a traditional New Year’s Day feast?
  • This wedding will only intrude once. Stop grumbling. Adapt!
  • It’s going to be such a special time, no one will want to miss it.

Certainly things around our house will look different during Christmas 2015 as we push toward the day-after New Year’s wedding celebration. Different doesn’t mean bad.

In my world of an empty nest, it’s time to stir up the family traditions anyway. Adding daughters (and eventually grandchildren) deserves to take precedence over long-standing “We’ve always done it this way” traditions.

What’s your thought? Do you think most people will embrace this interruption to their usual New Year’s traditions?

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