Most of the time, I just blow off the millions of memes I see on Facebook, especially when they’re obviously nothing more than a soapbox. For some reason, this one stabbed deeper than others. Because enforcing a dress code has nothing to do with shaming or promoting misogyny.
I worked in the public education system for nearly fifteen years. I sent girls (in 7th or 8th grade) whose breasts were hanging out of their strappy camisole to the office for a “real” shirt.
I am a die-hard believer of successful education, which means I support dress codes. AND there’s no point in having rules if they aren’t going to be enforced (state and federal governments might care to remember this).
Since I’m a woman, it’s obvious that I don’t hold these beliefs because I believe I’m nothing more than a sex object. Of course, I am from a pre-70s generation, so I’ve probably been brainwashed by societal norms *rolls eyes.*
Anyone who knows me is doubled over with laughter. Here, let me give them a moment to collect themselves.
This meme is a perfect example of the tendency in American society to blow every little thing out of proportion while claiming it has something to do with discrimination.
Alert: Dress codes exist everywhere
At the schools where I worked, guys were dinged nearly as often as girls for inappropriate dressing. Mostly it had to do with their pants pulled so low those boxers they wanted everyone to see were hanging out.
The rule: undergarments can’t be on display.
How many of us would go to work with our undergarments on display?
(Other than those of us who work at a home office where sweats and pajamas are part of the norm.)
School is about preparing young people for adulthood.
Unfortunately, some people are counting on the school system to teach their kids things that only parents should be addressing.
“Because what if those parents don’t talk to their girls about menstruation or birth control?”
Yeah, what if that happens. Because that happens quite frequently? Systems are being constructed around the exceptions in society rather than the majority.
And I probably just offended someone with that statement. Maybe even a multitude of someones. Please read on before you compose your diatribe for my comments section.
You can’t change physiology, folks. Teenagers are walking hormones. They’re going to be distracted by things like what a person’s wearing.
How can a teacher compete with that?
A girl who’s worried about being told to cover up her assets isn’t thinking about how her education was interrupted by this trip to the office. Do people really think that? Or is that just a reason they know will bring attention to their gripes?
In fact, most of these teenagers would go along and get along if media didn’t push issues like this to the forefront of everyone’s mind. I’m not saying they would be drones, but they’d learn. In this case, they could understand the point of enforcing the dress code.
It has nothing to do with discrimination. It’s not about reinforcing some perspective that women are sex objects.
It’s about teaching people to follow the rules.
I’m not going to bring in the statistics about the ever-increasing misdemeanor crime among young people. You live here. You know it’s a problem.
Maybe it’s because rather than telling kids, “Those are the rules. We don’t have to agree. We don’t have to like it. But we do have to follow them;” parents and media are encouraging them to defy the rules they disagree with.
As if teenagers need any additional incentive to buck the system.
The fact is, we do have to follw the rules. At school. Or work. In public. Otherwise, there are consequences.
At home, dress how you want. Watch what you want. Drink it, do it, knock yourself out. At home, you make your own rules.
But rather than bashing the school’s standards, support them as necessary for that time and place. Fight them through regular channels if you truly feel they’re unfair, biased, or out-dated.
For the next two weeks, I’ll post on this topic again. Next up: a letter to the teenage girl referenced in the meme that started this fire under my feet. The third post: a letter to the teenage boy supposedly being taught to regard girls as sex objects.
What do you think? Feel free to disagree with me. All I ask is that you use the same amount of respect you want when people argue against you.